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An Inclusive Mission

A counseling client came into my office recently and began the session by saying: “This appointment could not have come at a better time. I am so disturbed by what is happening in the world right now. The political climate during this election season feels toxic to me. The conflict and ugliness over HB2 in… Read more

“Raising” by Denise Smith Cline

Mother’s yeast rolls. Once again I gather what I need to make them. Now that she is gone, I worry over the enigma of her recipes— for rolls, for child-rearing, for patience and kindness. The ingredients for rolls are simple enough. Warm water, flour, yeast, oil, an egg, a bit of salt and a touch… Read more

Thoughts for the New Year

My father was a good preacher. He didn’t like everything about being a Southern Baptist pastor, but he loved chewing on ideas and crafting good sermons out of them. About a month before he died, he gave me a sermon idea. “It’ll preach!” His eyes lit up as he told me. “But I won’t have… Read more

Goodbye, TPC

As I write this blog entry, I am less than two weeks away from my retirement from TPC. I’ve been here for the last fifteen years of my working life. What a great place to work it has been! A couple of years ago I wrote something here about the nature of pastoral counseling, drawing… Read more

Celebrating 40 Years

On September 15, TPC (formerly Triangle Pastoral Counseling) will celebrate 40 years serving the Triangle Area. Since our earliest days, TPC has been an extension of the faith communities of the Triangle Area. While some think that spirituality in behavioral and mental health is a new concept, TPC always welcomed the integration of spirit, mind… Read more

Radical Acceptance

The DBT concept of Radical Acceptance  (or how to quit your job skillfully) Dr. Marsha Linehan, the founder of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), repeatedly uses the phrase “pain plus non-acceptance equals suffering.” Most of us know a thing or two about the additional suffering that non-acceptance causes. At some point or another, we have all… Read more

A Word About Gratitude

I am currently stenciling the following quote on a wall in my house: “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others.” The quote, by Cicero, is over 2000 years old. But it is not at all dated! Today the most cutting edge neuroscience is showing us why this centuries… Read more

New Light on the Bible and Same-Sex Marriage

If you have an opinion on same-sex marriage, or if you’re having trouble forming an opinion, I have a book for you:  The Bible’s Yes to Same-Sex Marriage: An Evangelical’s Change of Heart, by conservative Christian theologian Mark Achtemeier.  In this recently published work, Dr. Achtemeier tells the story of his faith journey on this… Read more